Description
Most people don’t realize how much unresolved emotional pain they carry around. They don’t know why they always feel depressed, anxious, victimized, or disappointed. They wonder why they keep making the same self-sabotaging impulsive decisions.
These patterns often stem from their lost inner child, which carries a false narrative that has been on repeat since childhood. The hurt emotions resulting from childhood experiences of abuse, neglect, or trauma show up in adulthood as explosive anger, isolation, bad relationship choices, negative self-talk, feelings of being overwhelmed, being a people pleaser, and keeping others at arm’s length.
In Healing Your Lost Inner Child, Psychotherapist and Reiki master Robert Jackman takes you on a personal journey to explore unresolved wounds from your early life using the HEAL process for healing and embracing an authentic life. Through stories and exercises, this easy-to-read book will encourage you to learn how to stop giving in to your wounded inner child’s emotional pain frozen inside a snow globe within you. Each chapter gently takes you closer to this original wounding so you can acknowledge and finally heal your pain. Move from being an impulsive reactor to an authentic, conscious creator in your life.
The Healing Your Lost Inner Child Companion Workbook is also available to help you develop a deeper understanding of your relationships, codependency patterns and triggers, and create a self-nurturing plan.
Rebecca T. (verified owner) –
Psychotherapist Robert Jackman’s book offers an empathetic and easy-to-follow guide to healing the inner child for all of us wounded—those new to the world of recovery and those already healing. Like Jackman, one of my particular wounds grew from parental alcoholism, and even after years down the road of recovery, I discovered many “aha!” moments as Jackman teaches us to acknowledge both our wounds and our strengths as we re-connect to and integrate with our wise, authentic, and grounded selves. In particular, the author’s explanations and lists of common and repeated coping mechanisms, such as intellectualization, avoidance of conflict, and rejection of help, reawakened me to my occasional retreat into such defenses, and his telling the stories of other wounded adults—including his own—both reinforces the sad universality of trauma and offers us reassurance that we can, indeed, become our true, authentic selves once more. Jackman provides many exercises to help us in this process, including telling our own stories and setting new and healthy boundaries that overcome past impulsive reactions and strengthen our autonomy and fearlessness. He also asks us to create a timeline of wounds incurred from birth to age 20, an exercise that led to the personal revelation that my defensive ”smart-ass” responses to many situations grew from my deepest wounds in adolescence. Jackman’s Healing Your Lost Inner Child is a godsend to any and all wounded adults, no matter where we are in our recovery.
M Hart (verified owner) –
What a beautiful book and healing tool! The author really made me feel empowered and in control of my own healing. The questions he asked and thoughts he introduced weren’t always easy, but his writing made me feel supported and encouraged. The examples he chose often had me nodding along and demonstrated that he understood. And his willingness to share from his own experiences made me feel very seen and connected. I highly recommend for anyone who’s ready to put some work into themselves.
Colleen Fay (verified owner) –
I’ve done some work healing my inner child thru the years and Robert Jackman’s book is proving to be another incredible tool in my healing toolbox. The examples of patients from his practice and the VERY personal examples from Mr. Jackman’s own life let us all know that we are not alone. Doing this work can be difficult and Mr. Jackman’s thoughtful instruction and insight is like having your own personal guide thru the process. Read the book, do the work and move towards living a more authentic life.
Joanne L. Kittel (verified owner) –
People who have ongoing issues with depression, anxiety, self-destructive behaviors or destructive behaviors that damage relationships, who feel helpless and also confused by their repeated patterns will find this book most helpful. It will not only give steps toward enlightenment as to what is behind their defeating feelings, thoughts, and behaviors but also clearly takes the individual step by step toward developing and implementing tools that will lead to embracing an authentic life. A psychotherapist of many years specializing in the field of trauma, Robert Jackman has developed a masterful and coherent guide that is empathetically written and does not miss a beat to capture where the individual may be in the process of self-examination, discovering reality in a new way, and developing functional responses. Robert Jackman talks directly to the reader, reassuring that it is not a straight road but one that is taken courageously with lot of hidden twists and turns. He supports the reader from beginning to end. As a retired psychotherapist, I found reading it very helpful and only wished I would have had this book to read 30 years ago as a training guide.
Joanne Kittel, Psychiatric Social Worker
Amy (verified owner) –
I’m not typically one that writes product reviews but this book is page upon page of “Aha” moments. There is so much valuable information and well thought out analogies that helped me to be more in tune as to why I am the way I am. The author hit so many trigger points spot on~ very impressed.. I struggle with co dependency and this book provided me healing solutions and the key to setting boundaries to help move forward in all of my relationships. If you are looking for ways to hear your inner voice~ this book is definitely a game changer.
DCM (verified owner) –
A wise and practical approach to healing and growth.
John G Roth MD (verified owner) –
A wonderful well written and insightful book. A useful tool in recognizing and helping yourself, friends, and family with unproductive repeating patterns and behavior. I would highly recommend to anyone.
LYDKID (verified owner) –
This book will address many wounds that occurred in childhood. As I read through it, I thought of many people who can benefit from this book. The author hits the nail on the head when he speaks about the wounded inner child; so get some help and read this book. It’s a good place to start for your healing.
cassie (verified owner) –
The thing I absolutely love about this book, the way that it is layed out, I feel is easy for others to understand and helps you dig deep beneath the surface. The index with all emotions is very useful for those who may not have the awareness to identify what they are feeling. There are exercises for you to do that helps you connect with the underlying issues that we struggle with the most internally, it gives a lot of information to help you better understand yourself, and maybe others, examples of others stories to help give you an idea of I absolutely love this book!
Dominica Applegate<span class="a-icon a-profile-verified-badge"><span class="a-profile-verified-text"></span></span> (verified owner) –
I truly enjoyed and got a lot out of this book. Easy to read and insightful for inner child healing. Thank you.
Lukasz Sztukowski (verified owner) –
Most important book which i was able to find anytime on self healing.
RDNC (verified owner) –
It brings up a lot of the dysfunction- who wants to go face to face with the very issues we denied and avoided for many many years? This book is a show down!
AJKov (verified owner) –
This is the book you didn’t know you needed.
It is helping me realize some issues I thought I was past and giving me the tools I need to address them.
Reviewer in the U.S. (verified owner) –
This is an incredible book. The wisdom within is super powerful and healing. Mr. Jackman clearly has deep experience in this area and provides clear guidance via the HEAL process that he created. I am so thankful for this book and it is helping me tremendously on my personal path to healing my lost inner child.
Matthew W. (verified owner) –
This book is incredibly accessible! It provides a blueprint for healing one’s wounds, and growing as you acknowledge and address them and embrace yourself!
phuong (verified owner) –
This is exactly what I need. Thank you
Tina (verified owner) –
At 56 years, coming from a background of childhood abuse and trauma, followed by years in and out of therapy, this is literally the BEST book and workbook I have purchased for actually healing! So many of these books on childhood trauma go on and on and on about what the problem was, who the abusers are/were and what they did to damage you, and what is wrong with you now, and then spend very little time or focus on the actual healing. I don’t need to keep rehashing all the bad, I’ve done that. I love the way Jackman focuses on what needs to be done to move past the trauma even as he points out what it did. Using the book and workbook together make me feel lighter, more positive, and able to see the light at the end of my healing tunnel! Thank you Robert Jackman!!!
M.Emery (verified owner) –
I actually bought the book and listened to it on auditable.
I felt the author getting in my head and telling me how I feel when I couldn’t make the words make sense, I’m not finished the book but I can already see how this workbook is going to help me heal and break the cycles of generational trauma. I am learning how to spot my inner child tantrums & how to have healthy boundaries. I can’t rave about this book enough.
Ronnie Campos (verified owner) –
It helped to look at life and understand self.
Sawyer (verified owner) –
I’ve read a lot of self-help books and this is one of the best! The author is not only a therapist but he had his own trauma that he worked through. He takes you step-by-step on what to do, and he explains why, with lots of examples. A wonderful and powerful book!
Pixie (verified owner) –
This book has helped me more than anything else I’ve tried. You have to commit to it & try all of the exercises. It’s not easy work but well well worth it.
Lily W. (verified owner) –
Last year I was looking to do some personal development work but didn’t know where to even start. As I began reading psychology books, the concept of one’s inner child would often come up. I was ALWAYS someone who was super turned off by this – I don’t like children, don’t like thinking of my childhood, and was definitely of the belief you should just get over it/move on and leave the past behind. Boy was I wrong. If you just give this book a chance it will change your life. It made me realize how our childhoods dictate almost every aspect of our personalities, dating lives, interpersonal relationships, and so on. And I really believe now that it is only through doing such a deep dive and accepting the past that we can move forward into the future. Just read the damn book! You won’t regret it.
Matilda Farris (verified owner) –
Book is very interesting as far as feelings that are hidden in childhood but show up in your adult life that we don’t realize or always understand.
James Burrows (verified owner) –
Learned more from this one book than months of therapy.
Ericka T. (verified owner) –
Very inspirational Book.
Nopohboy (verified owner) –
As a clinician, this book is very bento the therapeutic community..Young clinician would benefits during practicum and subsequent internships..This book shed insight on early life wounding our the younger version of ourselves…It promotes self examination an empowerment…I use this book in my practice and recommend it clinicians who find client are stuck or lack self awareness…This is win for the field of psychology.
Schatzsucherin (verified owner) –
Dieses Buch habe ich aufgrund der vorhandenen Rezessionen gekauft. Nach einigen Kapiteln fand ich die “inneren Einblicke” zu oberflächlich und nicht umwälzend genug. Richtig fündig geworden bin ich mut Tim Fletcher, einem kanad. Traumaexperten, der leicht online zu finden ist. Dann kann man sich dieses Buch sparen.
Selina (verified owner) –
reccomend for and t everyone
Bobbi (verified owner) –
I highly recommend that you purchase the companion workbook with the book!! It allows you to truly sit with all your thoughts writing them down as the author knows how to get you to answer complex questions to get to the bottom. Robert Jackman quickly becomes your friend yet also the inner child. I have had the opportunity to read and be a part of many books on my own or through counseling/mentoring with others and after 30 years I can say this will forever be my go to when I meet with others! It truly is life changing and is written in a way that you know it becomes part of you and can easily be returned to quickly to remind you of how to grow from triggers!! When you are finished with the book the companion workbook continues to help you navigate the changes you are learning to make!! Up till the very last page you will be learning how to make purposeful conscious choices! So thankful for this author and how he put the book and workbook together!!
Liz V (verified owner) –
Excellent book enjoy a great read with your glass of red!
Kohl Mayberry (verified owner) –
This book changed my life for the better. I am grateful to have found this beautiful work of love. I really appreciate that Mr. Robert Jackman shares himself and gives personal accounts and recollections of his childhood as I felt that framework allowed for me to connect more deeply with the content of the book.
The book is filled with so many wonderful lessons and it reflected back to me things that I was not consciously aware of before, it shed light deep into my heart. I am an avid reader and this book is one of the best if not the best books I have ever read, it touched me so profoundly. So many little tidbits of love lessons through this great work. It really shows that Mr. Robert Jackman has really put his heart and soul into this creation. What a magical peace of love this book is.
KE (verified owner) –
I gobbled this book up in a day. So well written, very informative.
Birsen (verified owner) –
I read several “inner child book”. None of them was as touchy, flowing and awakening as this book. This touched my deep buried feelings and woke me up. Exchanging letters between your inner little child and the adult yourself was the most effective. At the end of the book I changed for better.
Robert Jackman, the society owe you a big thank you
タカデナ (verified owner) –
Thank you for this book. It helped me alot .
Annie (verified owner) –
As I’ve started to dig into healing I’ve realized there are wounds I have buried from my childhood. I’ll be honest I am only one chapter in but I can already tell this book is exactly what I needed. Sometimes we don’t even realize the reasons we do certain things or act certain ways. Highly recommend if you are wanting to dig into your healing journey
Cristian-Paul (verified owner) –
If you want to understand yourself better, become a better version of yourself or to just find some sort of peace in your life then this is a must read book.
Mark (verified owner) –
I needed this book. I needed to heal my wounded self and set boundaries. I feel a greater sense of freedom and I’m not as sad or angry like I was. I listened to the audio version. Well done! I highly recommend this book.
Mimi King (verified owner) –
Very informative!!
Adam (verified owner) –
This is a really excellent book. I’m using it as a therapist to modify my practice and it can be used in that way or for an individual to do work on themselves. There is a really good process described for addressing deep emotional wounds in order to improve one’s life, in a way that is accessible for someone with such wounds, which is not an easy tak.
Debbie Andrews (verified owner) –
I highly recommend this book
jostokes1104 (verified owner) –
I am a woman in my 30s. My inner child, as I know now, has been in charge of all my life. I have come to understand that is why I have never “felt” like a grown up, or why I have never felt able to trust myself. Robert Jackman’s empathetic and concise writing has supported me whilst I have learnt that “myself” has been in two warring parts for decades. I also bought the workbook, which I am still slowly plodding through even though I have finished the parent text. It is very helpful to have it confrm my understanding and to appreciate how much I have grown since I invested in this book at the beginning of the year.
I highly recommend working through them simultaneously, because it has helped me face so many long buried truths about how my inner child was parented and what the impact has been on me as an adult. It has been absolutely invaluable because it hasn’t felt like a “self-help” book, more an investment because it has felt like with Jackman’s guidance, I have begun a meaningful conversation with my inner child for the first time and I honestly feel unburdened, because if you commit to this book, you are committing to hearing yourself. You will not regret it.
Ayisa (verified owner) –
I definitely recommend this book. It took me a while to go through it because or the reflections and exercises that you have to do. But I think is one of the healing books I have read so far.
James Daigle (verified owner) –
Really enjoyed the book recommended by my therapist. It was eye opening and a great start to healing myself and working on my issues. My only drawback is the amount of times the same message is re-said. I’m sure it is of value for people that need that to ingrain but it hurt the momentum of the progress a little for me. Nonetheless I have recommended this book to a number of people as I do find it of value!
Joe (verified owner) –
Easy-to-understand book that helps to illuminate our past emotional wounds and sets us on a path to become responsible adults who protect and embrace our inner child.
Lin (verified owner) –
Helped me a lot. Very good content. Worth a read if had rough childhood.
Amy C (verified owner) –
This book is helping me tremendously with my food addiction. I read it, worked it, wrote a lot and lost weight almost effortlessly. There is much work to do but this is the best self-help book I’ve ever read!
Rickyrastus (verified owner) –
Great self help book which helped deal with a lot of childhood truths.